THE MARKS OF MATURITY (from Tim Elmore)

1.      A mature person is able to keep long-term commitments. JAMES 1:2-4

  • This is the ability to delay gratification.
  • They can do this even when the commitment is no longer new, novel or they “don’t feel like it.”

2.      A mature person is unshaken by flattery or criticism. GALATIANS 1:10

  • As they mature, they find that nothing is as good as it seems and nothing is as bad as it seems.
  • They can accept compliments and critiques without letting it ruin them.
  • They are secure in their identity.
  • They take responsibility for their actions.

3.      A mature person possesses a spirit of humility. LUKE 14:11; ROMANS 12:3

  • Humility parallels maturity – this is not thinking less of yourself, but thinking of yourself less!
  • Mature people are not concerned with drawing attention to themselves.
  • Mature people accept the fact that they don’t know everything.
  • They give honor to others who have helped in their success.
  • They give honor to their Creator who gave them talent and potential.

4.      A mature person’s decisions are based on character, not feelings. 2 TIMOTHY 2:22

  • Mature people live by values and principles that guide their decisions.
  • They progress beyond merely reacting to life’s options.
  • They are pro-active, understanding that emotions are important, but that their character is master over their emotions.

5.      A mature person expresses gratitude consistently. PSALM 118:24; COLOSSIANS 3:17

  • They see the big picture and realize how good they have it.
  • They don’t presume that they deserve everything good that happens to them.

6.      A mature person knows how to prioritize others before themselves. PHILIPPIANS 2:3; ROMANS 12:10

  • The ability to get past one’s desires and consider the needs of others is a powerful indicator of maturity.
  • Their agenda revolves around others, not self.

7.      A mature person seeks wisdom before acting. ROMANS 1:21-23; JAMES 1:5

  • They are teachable.  They don’t presume to have all the answers.
  • The wiser they get, the more they realize the need for more wisdom.
  • They aren’t ashamed of asking for counsel from friends, colleagues and most importantly, God.